The Do’s and Don’ts during the Holidays

This holiday season, take a deep breath. Between the parties and celebrations, it's easy to get overwhelmed. But you don't have to let anxiety and guilt rule your December. This year can be different.

It's time to quiet that inner critic and make peace with food. Don't let past labels like "good" or "bad" control you. Food is meant to be enjoyed! Give yourself permission to savor special treats in moderation—you deserve it.

Compare less, celebrate more. Stay present in each gathering, not lost in worry about what others think. Your worth isn't defined by your diet or your weight. You are so much more.

This holiday season, be kind to yourself. Simplify and prioritize what matters most. Make self-care a priority, not an afterthought. Listen to your body's needs. And most of all, embrace each celebration as a gift, not a burden. This December can be your best yet!

Don't

1. Question food choices or amounts

If you absolutely can not have something due to an intolerance or allergy obviously do not eat it. For those that are restrictors like me remember something is better than nothing. It can still be healthy choices such as vegetables with dip, fruit, nuts, or cheese from the appetizers. Lean meats with vegetables for a sit-down meal.

If you are unsure of what is going to be served feel free to bring your own. I know some may find this offensive but if your friends and family are supportive of your recovery they will have compassion and understanding. If you split up the responsibilities of family members or friends with bringing a dish to pass this won't even be a question in anyone's mind.

2. Numb with alcohol

Even with all the gluten-free options for adult beverages, excessive consumption can lead you down a difficult road. With the effects of alcohol inhibiting your judgment, you may binge or eat something that could cause inflammation or intestinal issues. No one wants to be stuck in the bathroom during a gathering.

Utilize any coping mechanisms you have learned to help you during these stressful times. Talk with your support system and create a plan for how you will deal with any anxiety that may arise. This is supposed to be an enjoyable time for all. If it is not enjoyable to you, share why it is not enjoyable with your loved ones. They will do what is needed to make you feel comfortable, loved, and having a good time.

3. Restrict

I know how overwhelming all the food choices can be. You start tallying up all the calories in each item and restricting yourself to stay within your limits. This can backfire on you. The restriction of foods can lead to later binging. The binging can lead to regret and possibly purging. This practice is extremely unhealthy and can cause severe damage to your body.

One day of not counting calories and focusing on the nutrient value of each piece of food you put in your body will not throw you completely off track. If you can not bring yourself to eat something you deem unhealthy at least eat something. Filling your body with nourishment will keep you energized and partaking in the festivities.

Do

1. Have compassion

Give yourself some leeway. Whether you restrict, binge or purge do your best. If all the gatherings are too much for you at this time in your recovery process find different ways of partaking. Maybe go for just a little while and if you get too overwhelmed you leave.

Take a support person with you. If you are feeling anxious or overwhelmed pull them aside to talk it out. This support person can remind you to have compassion for yourself and do your best to enjoy time with family and friends.

2. Have fun

Try to focus on the social aspect of the gathering. You can keep your mind off the food and drinks by conversing with people and participating in games. If you get social anxiety take a break from the crowd. Sitting in a quiet place for a short period of time and meditating can be a great coping skill.

3. Communicate

Ask what is being served to be prepared. Share with your friends and family your concerns about how you may feel during the gathering so they can work with you to make it as enjoyable as possible for you. It could be simple things like only putting out certain foods at specific times so there is not just a huge table full of food staring at you.

Sharing these concerns can also minimize any comments or pushes that could actually hold you back more. If any comments or pushiness do arise communicate how that makes you feel. Most people do not mean to be hurtful and will understand. You could even find more support through this communication.

Final Thoughts

Friends, let's continue this journey of wellness together. I'll be putting the advice we discussed into practice, and I encourage you to reach out if you need support. My inbox is always open at thewellnessblondie@gmail.com. Connecting with each other is so important.

While I'm no professional, I'm happy to lend an ear as we navigate recovery. If you need more formal assistance, the wonderful folks at NEDA are there for you 24/7. You can contact them at 800-931-2237 at no cost to speak with trained volunteers to help you find the support and information you need. If you are in a crisis and need immediate assistance, text "NEDA" to 741741 to be connected with a trained volunteer 24/7.

If you are struggling with an eating disorder, there is help. Recovery isn't easy, but with compassion and community, we can make it through. Wishing you strength and peace on your path. You are loved, worthy, beautiful, and not alone.

Here is an excellent resource with many links to help you find resources and recovery options. Click here. Help is available if you want it.

~ Tina