Is plastic surgery the answer?

Have you ever thought about plastic surgery? Like well if I go in and have this one then I will look better or if I do this then this part will look better.

When you do not love yourself, you will always find something that needs improvement. I have thought about doing some form of plastic surgery for about ten years. I even went so far as to have a consultation for a mommy makeover.

Now I am not against plastic surgery. If that is something you want to do, then go for it, and more power to you. I know people that have lost a ton of weight and had extra skin that needed to be removed. I also know people who were unhappy with their breast size or shape and had them reduced or increased.

What I am talking about is the thinking that if you do this one thing it will fix the way you feel about yourself. And in some cases, it does but, in others, the root cause of the hatred for your body is not that one thing. And one surgery turns into ten.

When I went in for this consultation, I was so excited to get more information on what they could do to help me, how I would look, how I would feel, and of course the cost.

Now let me tell you standing there in a thong and hospital gown while they markup, lift, poke, squeeze, and discuss all the things they can do to make you look a specific way did not make me excited to do any surgery.

I left feeling even worse about myself. I wanted a consult for plumping up my breasts since they have lost their lively hood from childbearing. And this may have been the doctor I saw that totally turned me off but the "well we can do this, but you should consider this too and this and you will look 20 again."

I do not want to look 20 again! I want to look my age. I do not want super-filled lifted breasts like a 20-year-old. I am almost 40 I will look ridiculous! These are my thoughts if you want to look 20 in your 40s go for it. I don't. I want some sag to my breasts just not as much and I want them filled somewhat not overfilled and stretched out more.

As for my stomach, it is not in that bad of shape after going through 4 pregnancies in my mind anyway. It could stand to lose some extra fat that has accumulated from aging, but the skin is in pretty darn good condition.

I recently heard of fat transfer from one part of your body to another. I will be looking into that instead of inserting something that may need replacing or could burst.

Now, this is not coming from my spouse in any way. He could care less whether I did or didn't do any procedures. He just wants me to be happy with myself. Why? Because when we are satisfied with ourselves, we can give to others. What husband doesn't want their spouse to be satisfied? "A happy wife makes for a happy life" as the saying goes.

It makes sense, when mom is happy, she is calmer, fun, spunky, and loving. So, before I make any moves to have any kind of cosmetic surgery, I want to really love myself. I don't want to have one procedure done to then hate another part of myself. Because no matter how much plastic surgery you have if you do not love yourself, you will never be happy with the results.

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The Wellness Blondie

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